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How Quickly Can You Turn Success into Failure?

September 18, 2015 by Joycelyn Campbell 4 Comments

game_over

We don’t have to make a point of looking for what isn’t working or the places where we haven’t lived up to our expectations. Our brain automatically notices those things and points them out to us. It’s wired to pay more attention to negative events than to positive ones. That’s because while positive events may be extremely pleasurable and possibly even good for us, negative events could kill us or put us in grave danger. At least that’s how the unconscious part of the brain (System 1) perceives them. This automatic tendency is so universal it has a name: the negativity bias.

In and of itself, having a brain that points out what isn’t working or measures how far we missed the mark isn’t a bad thing. That kind of information is potentially very useful.  It’s the way we over-value and respond to negative information that gets us into trouble. Because we have a brain that is primed to notice the negative, it’s easy for us to overlook the positive altogether, even when there’s plenty of positive for the eye to behold.

When Good Isn’t Good Enough to Qualify

Several of my clients are addressing health-related issues in my Goals, Habits & Intentions course. They have either set long-term goals to achieve specific results in terms of such things as diet and exercise or they are working on changing or creating habits that support the level of health and well-being they want to achieve.

One person who has diabetes is working on lowering her blood glucose level (which is measured by a test called the A1c). She decided to aim for lowering her A1c to a specific number and created a goal action plan to help her do that. She was following her plan just fine until she purchased a kit from a drugstore to do a home test and got a result that was better than the one she was aiming for.

At that point, she pretty much stopped following her plan. But when she got her official A1c test results back from the lab a few weeks later, they were disappointing. The number was not as low as the one she’d gotten from her home test. Her view of the situation was that she had failed—not just in continuing to follow that specific goal action plan, but in doing the Goals, Habits & Intentions coursework.

So I was surprised to learn that her A1c result was lower than it had been the last time she was tested. And the number last time she was tested was lower than it had been at the beginning of the year. From the first test to the third test, she had lowered her A1c by 1.6 points! By any objective measure, that’s a significant success. Instead of celebrating it, however, she discounted it. Her successful results were a failure in her own eyes because they weren’t quite as amazing as she’d thought they would be.

I suggested she make a visual chart that tracked her A1c numbers over the course of this year and put it up in a prominent location so the irrefutable evidence of her success would be harder to ignore.

The Default Response

This is a pernicious problem we all face: jumping to conclusions about the information provided to us by our brain and by external sources. It can happen at either end of the scale (“good” news or “bad” news), but the interesting thing is that the result of both good news and bad news is often the same: we stop whatever it is we were doing. And the culprit in both cases is System 1 thinking, which is focused entirely on the short term.

If the news is “good,” we stop because we think we achieved our goal so we don’t need to continue working toward it. That makes a certain amount of sense because that’s what you do when you actually achieve a goal. But in a lot of cases we need to set up a goal in order to change or start a habit so we can maintain our success. This is especially important in the area of health and wellness. If we want to maintain long-term changes, we can’t stop doing the things that are making us healthier. Instead, we need to turn them into habits. (As an aside, I read a blog post a couple of years ago by someone who set out to develop a 30-day habit of strength training. After the 30 days he decided he had been successful and didn’t need to do it any longer.)

If the news is “bad,” we use it as evidence of our poor character (lack of self-control, powerlessness, etc.) and of the pointlessness of our attempts. Why bother? Nothing works, anyway. The automatic tendency isn’t to evaluate what might have gone wrong, but to chuck the whole thing, thus guaranteeing failure and maybe even overlooking evidence of success.

Celebrate Success!

I used to be able to count on getting in several workouts at the gym each week. And I loved it. But at the beginning of this year, my daily schedule went bonkers and has stayed that way. After months of attempting to fit the gym into my new schedule, I traded the gym for walking every day because I can break walking into smaller segments of time and fit them into the breaks between classes and appointments. As September approached, I decided it was time to exchange a couple of days of walking each week for using the treadmill at the gym.

I went to the gym at the beginning of the first week, loved it, and thought I could probably get in not just one more visit but two that week. Nevertheless, I managed only the one visit. The same thing happened the next week and then the week after that. I noticed I had failed to follow through on my original intention. I noticed the impulse to interpret my once-a-week gym visits as a failure. But I also acknowledged I really hadn’t had an opportunity to get in more time at the gym, and I’d kept up my walking and even increased it. I reminded myself that baby steps and perseverance are an almost unbeatable combination. At the end of three weeks, I looked at the notations on my calendar and realized I’d gotten in three more workouts on the treadmill than I would have if I hadn’t set an intention.

In order to celebrate success, we have to notice it, which means not having a knee-jerk reaction to every realization we haven’t met or exceeded our expectations. The game is only over when we stop playing—and that is largely up to us.

When have you turned a success into a failure? What do you think you could do to change your perspective in those kinds of situations?

Filed Under: Attention, Brain, Celebration, Cognitive Biases, Habit, Living, Unconscious Tagged With: Failure, Goals, Habits, Health, Success, System 1, Unconscious

How to Beat the Planning Fallacy

August 28, 2014 by Joycelyn Campbell 2 Comments

Depiction of frustration

The planning fallacy is a tendency to “describe plans and forecasts that are unrealistically close to best-case scenarios.” [Daniel Kahneman and Amos Tversy] In other words, people tend to make plans, set goals, schedule their time, etc., based on an assumption that everything will go smoothly, easily, and according to the plan they have created.

One effect of the planning fallacy is underestimating how long something will take to complete. If a deadline is involved, the result can range from a period of burning the midnight oil to catch up to a major catastrophe—depending on the situation.

Another effect is an inability to tolerate the inevitable delays and obstacles that are a normal part of any project or process and to interpret them to mean that something must be terribly wrong or someone must be to blame (because things haven’t gone according to the plan).

The way to beat the planning fallacy is to focus on process rather than on outcome.

Concentrating on process—the steps or activities necessary to achieve the desired result—helps people focus their attention, leads to more realistic expectations, and reduces anxiety. This allows people to anticipate potential problems as well as potential solutions.

Of course, it’s important to identify the desired outcome so you know where you’re headed. But once you have done that, if you keep your attention on what it will take to get there, you’re much more likely to arrive and to maintain your sanity.

Filed Under: Attention, Cognitive Biases, Creating, Mind, Mindfulness Tagged With: Attention, Best-Case Scenario, Goals, Outcome, Planning, Planning fallacy, Plans, Process

Got Goals?

August 24, 2014 by Joycelyn Campbell 2 Comments

GoalYou probably won’t be surprised to learn that people who set low goals or no goals tend not to accomplish much. On the other hand, people who set goals not only get more done, they also tend to be happier and more satisfied with their lives. In addition, people who set and achieve challenging goals increase their self-confidence and self-esteem.

A goal without a plan is just a wish. –Seth Adam Smith

A goal is a specific state of affairs that a plan is intended to achieve and that (when achieved) terminates behavior intended to achieve it. In other words, once you complete the plan, you are finished working toward it. Formulating a goal is the first step toward achieving it. If you get this wrong, you will have a tough time getting what you want. A well-formulated goal identifies both a specific state of affairs and the time by when you intend to achieve it:

I intend to lose five pounds by November 1st rather than I want to lose some weight.

Two factors that will greatly increase the likelihood you will achieve your goal are:

  1. Knowing why you’re doing it (how does it relate to what really matters to you?).
  2. Making a commitment to doing it.

One follows from the other. If you aren’t sure why you’re setting or working toward a goal, you’ll have a harder time making a commitment to achieving it. There’s no point in putting time, effort, and energy into doing something half-heartedly or half-way. Of course, making a commitment doesn’t mean you can see into the future and know what the outcome will be. There are no guarantees. But if you build escape clauses and wiggle room into your goals right from the start, you’re probably wasting your time. Once you know why you want to achieve a goal and you have made a commitment to doing what it takes, these three steps can help you seal the deal:

  1. Write it down. Writing out your goal can help you clarify it and solidify your commitment.
  2. Make it SMART. That means Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-Bound.
  3. Develop a plan. A plan consists of the action steps you need to take in order to achieve that specific state of affairs you are now committed to creating in your life.

Now go out there and make something happen!

Filed Under: Creating, Finding What You Want, Living, Purpose Tagged With: Commitment, Goal-Setting, Goals, Self-Confidence, SMART, Success

Food, Sex, Drugs, Rock ‘n’ Roll, and Habits

July 17, 2014 by Joycelyn Campbell 2 Comments

week-end-pleasure

What do all these things have in common? The answer is dopamine. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that is involved in the brain’s reward system. It is triggered by the expectation of a reward and its release fills us with a feeling of pleasure. Our brain then associates the behavior with the feeling of pleasure.

The brain’s reward system helps ensure that we learn—and remember—behaviors that enhance our chances of remaining alive. That’s why so many of the things we naturally find rewarding are related to food and reproduction. Many different substances, activities, and behaviors trigger the release of dopamine. Some of them, in addition to food and sex, are:

  • social interactions
  • music
  • generosity
  • scary movies, scary situations, or scary thoughts
  • psychoactive drugs (alcohol, cocaine, heroin, nicotine, etc.)
  • gambling
  • sugar

Dopamine is part of a brain circuit called the mesolimbic pathway. The mesolimbic pathway connects behaviors to feelings of pleasure, which results in the formation of habits.  A pleasurable experience acts as a stimulus to wake up the mesolimbic pathway. Along with the release of dopamine, emotional and learning circuits are activated to increase the likelihood we will remember what we did.

A reward is positive reinforcement. It motivates us to repeat the behavior. In the case of long-term goals, small hits of dopamine encourage us to keep moving forward, so it pays to know where you are headed. And it’s more effective to acknowledge and celebrate each small accomplishment along the way than it is to wait for one big jolt of dopamine at the end.

Dopamine also plays a role in:

  • movement
  • memory
  • behavior and cognition
  • attention and alertness
  • motivation
  • sleep
  • mood
  • learning

Abnormal levels of dopamine are involved in Parkinson’s disease, schizophrenia, and drug addiction.

The Good, the Bad, and the Addictive

Although a wide variety of behaviors can affect dopamine levels, some of those behaviors have a greater potential for being harmful or even life-threatening. Psychostimulant drugs such as cocaine, methamphetamine, and ecstasy operate by inhibiting the reuptake of dopamine. As a result, the brain remains flooded with it. The person using the drug will continue ingesting it in order to maintain the increased level of dopamine.

Dopamine affects the sympathetic nervous system, resulting in a release of energy which is intended to spur us on toward the finish line. So the abuse of psychostimulant drugs often results in increased heart rate and elevated blood pressure. There is no long-term change to the production of dopamine or to dopamine receptors in the brain as a result of using these kinds of drugs, but when a person stops taking them, he or she will experience some seriously unpleasant feelings.

Many activities or behaviors performed compulsively are classified as addictive, even though they have no component of physical dependence. That’s because the behaviors stimulate the brain’s reward system—or over-stimulate it—to the extent that people are driven by a craving for whatever gets them those hits of dopamine. Craving a reward doesn’t just happen in the case of addictions. Craving is actually essential for successfully creating good habits, too. Whether it’s using cocaine or getting more fruit and vegetables in one’s diet, the brain’s reward system operates the same way.

Behavior  —> Dopamine Hit —> Pleasure —> “Do it again!”
Rewards Reinforce Habits

If there are no rewards, or weak rewards, habits are much less likely to take hold. That’s because the basal ganglia, which is the part of the brain that turns repetitive behaviors into habits, depends on having enough dopamine to operate efficiently.

If something doesn’t produce a hit of dopamine in our brain, we will not experience it as rewarding. It doesn’t matter if 99% of the rest of the people in the world find it rewarding (i.e., get a dopamine hit from it). If it doesn’t give us a dopamine hit, it won’t work as a reward. We talk about the reward as if it’s the activity, behavior, thing, or substance. But the things (activities, behaviors, etc.) that feel rewarding are essentially means to the same end: that hit of dopamine.

Sometimes we know what the reward for a habit is, but since habits can be formed outside our awareness, there are times when we’re kind of clueless. And as far as the brain is concerned, anything that produces a hit of dopamine is good. The brain doesn’t care about our opinions or mental assessments of good or bad. No one sets out to become addicted to a substance or a behavior. The brain’s reward system operates outside our conscious awareness. Feed into it and we create a habit or an addiction. Try to stop it consciously using will power or intention without understanding the powerful system we’re up against and we fail more often than not.

It’s easy to believe that your verbal inner voice is your whole thought process and ignore your neurochemical self. —Loretta Graziano Breuning, Ph.D.

In order to change a habit or start a new one, we have to be able to identify what it is that gives us that hit of dopamine. We may know we feel good every time we do a particular thing without knowing what part of the behavior is creating the reward. It’s especially important to figure rewards out correctly when trying to change an existing habit. If the new behavior doesn’t produce a similar reward, it won’t work as well.

Long-Term Reward System

Dopamine doesn’t just play a role in immediate rewards or in the formation of habits, it also helps us stay focused on long-term goals whose rewards are not within sight.

The journal Nature reported on a study conducted by researchers from the University of Washington in Seattle and MIT that revealed details on how the brain is able to stay focused on long-term goals.

While most previous studies have involved looking at dopamine with respect to an immediate reward, the new study found increasing levels of dopamine as laboratory rats approached an expected reward after delayed gratification.

Researchers were able to continuously record dopamine concentration while training rats to find their way through a maze in pursuit of a chocolate milk reward. What they found was that levels of dopamine rose steadily and culminated in a peak level as the rodent neared the reward. According to Ann Graybiel, brain researcher at MIT:

The dopamine signal seems to reflect how faraway the rat is from its goal. The closer it gets, the stronger the signal becomes. It’s as if the animal were adjusting its expectations, knowing it had further to go.

Graybiel believes the same thing happens in the brains of humans.

Of course, many of our long-term goals could take weeks, months, or even years to achieve. In such cases, we’d be wise to set short-term goals, track our progress, and reward ourselves for achievement along the way.

All Rewards Are Not Created Equal

As previously stated, a reward that works for one person may not work at all for someone else. One person may imagine soaking for an hour in a hot bubble bath to be a tiny slice of heaven while another person considers it cruel and unusual punishment. And some rewards that seem small and innocuous might turn out to have unintended negative consequences.

Temperament-Based Rewards: Understanding our personality or temperament can help us identify the type of reward that is most effective. Rewards can be physical/material, emotional, or mental. Someone who responds well to mental rewards, for example, may not be very motivated by that bubble bath.

Guilty Pleasures: It’s counterproductive to use something we ordinarily feel guilty about or try to avoid doing as a reward. That’s especially true if we use “guilty pleasure” rewards often. What we end up doing is reinforcing the craving for something we’ve already concluded doesn’t serve us in the long run. Using “bad” behavior to reward ourselves for good behavior pretty much defeats the purpose.

Satisfying Rewards: Know yourself. Then explore. Stretch your imagination. We tend to get into ruts in all kinds of areas including that of rewarding ourselves. Dopamine is more likely to be triggered when we try—and enjoy—new activities. There are probably a lot of things we might find pleasurable and have even thought about doing but never followed through on. Identifying some of those things and intentionally trying them out as rewards could expand our horizons and maybe even lead us in new and pleasurable directions.

One-time or Occasional Rewards: Rewarding ourselves after an intense or exhausting effort can be tricky. The point when the effort or ordeal is over is often when our self-control is at a low point. It’s easy to feel we really deserve a treat of some kind. The almost automatic next step is to give ourselves a free pass to overindulge. But that turns an opportunity to reinforce positive behavior into an excuse for self-indulgence, and it could easily negate the sense of accomplishment we would otherwise feel. Planning ahead can solve the problem. If we decide what our reward will be ahead of time—before our self-control is depleted—we can bypass temptation. Then it’s a win-win situation.

Extrinsic vs. Intrinsic Rewards

Sometimes the reward stimulus comes from others or from our environment. We might work extra hard for a bigger paycheck or for acknowledgement of our efforts if those things make us feel good. We might take up some form of exercise to look better at the beach or swimming pool or senior center if other people’s approval makes us feel good. We might get into the habit of picking things up around the house to avoid arguing with our spouse or partner if maintaining the peace makes us feel good. Similarly, we might change our diet or take up meditation so our doctor won’t get on our case about our blood pressure if getting through our next appointment without another lecture makes us feel good.

Extrinsic rewards can be effective for a while, maybe for a long while. Extrinsic rewards often motivate us to change or start a habit, and that’s a good thing. But extrinsic rewards are usually not effective over the long haul. If we ask ourselves why we want to do what we’re doing—not why someone else thinks we should do it—we have a better opportunity to clarify what’s really important to us. And if we can’t answer that question, it’s a sign we might just be spinning our wheels.

If we can identify a reward behavior that is meaningful to us—an intrinsic reward—we’re much more likely to stick with the habit or behavior. In fact, if we focus on intrinsic rewards, we’re not only more likely to be successful in creating and maintaining habits we want to have, we’re also likely to find out we no longer need to reward ourselves for continuing them! Rewards are great motivators, and they are critical in kick-starting new habits. But nothing beats the moment of discovering the habit has become a part of who we are and not just something we do.

Relegating What Matters to Reward Status

It can be tempting to use something that really matters to us as a reward for putting time and effort into something that doesn’t. If I get the house clean, I can get some writing done. If I finish this project for so-and-so, then I can work on my [music, quilting, gardening, etc.…].

This is an unequivocally bad idea and entirely backwards.The things that matter to us are often the very activities that energize and enliven us, whereas the things that don’t matter, but which we have to do anyway, can be draining and tiring. Putting off doing something that really matters until we’re drained and tired from directing the bulk of our energy and attention on things that don’t matter usually leads to not doing the things that matter.

If there’s something that’s really important, we need to find another way to include it in our lives. Making sure we spend time on things that matter can actually make those other activities less burdensome.

Besides, if we have to constantly reward ourselves for getting through the day, we might want to consider changing at least some of what it is we’re doing during the day.

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The bottom line is that the importance of rewards cannot be overstated, yet this is often the step people omit when they are trying to change their behavior or achieve their goals. Maybe they place excessive confidence in self-control or will-power. Or maybe they believe they should be able to do these things without having to reward themselves.

But the brain’s reward system is going to operate with or without your consent or input. So why not be intentional about it and use it instead of letting it use you?

Filed Under: Brain, Finding What You Want, Habit, Learning, Living Tagged With: Brain, Dopamine, Goals, Habits, Mesolimbic pathway, Mind, Pleasure, Reward system

Inside Week 6 of What Do You Want?

June 12, 2014 by Joycelyn Campbell Leave a Comment

This is the sixth and final–but hopefully not forever–guest post by Jean S., who has been sharing her experience of participating the 6-week What Do You Want? course. She previously wrote about week 1, week 2, week 3, week 4, and week 5.

This week we continued exploring and, in some cases, expanding the list of what our heart is connected to, in terms of Big Picture Wants. Having our own personal list of Big Picture Wants (which are fairly intangible), helps us assess whether—and how—the things we are doing now or the goals we are going after fit into this firmament of our own “cosmic values” (my term, not Joycelyn’s).

We can better assess whether we are spending time in activities that don’t get us to any of our Big-Picture Wants. Life is too short for that! So if I suspect this is the case, I want to look deeper to see if there isn’t some Big-Picture type reward, perhaps one I haven’t yet identified, that I am getting from this activity. If something I’m doing seems like a drag or I do it without enthusiasm, it would help me see it and do it differently if I saw it as part of the bigger picture—as getting me one of my BPW’s. But if there is no connection and I do it “just because,” then maybe I could ditch that activity. My suspicion is that many of these kinds of activities actually are connected to the BPW’s, but we don’t usually look at them through that lens.

In order to have my heart in the process of going after my goals, there has to be a relationship between those goals—the things I want to accomplish—and my Big-Picture Wants.

One of the assignments of this final week was to take inventory of our relationship to goals, basically our history with them. We were to list three goals we have achieved, and describe how we did it.  Next we were to list three goals we attempted but did not achieve and describe what happened. Finally, we were to identify three goals we are currently working toward or want to work toward and the progress we’ve made. (Curiously, some of us in the group did not complete the section on goals attempted but not achieved, and those who did complete it reported that it was very difficult to do.)

Before my closing story, I want to thank Joycelyn for the opportunity to make these weekly reports.  If they sounded like gobbledygook, that means I either didn’t do a good job or perhaps you need this course. It was a real eye-opener and learning experience for me and, I’m pretty sure, for my cohorts in this class. Writing the reports has helped me get more out of the class, and helped me get my feet wet in writing for someone other than myself or my loved ones (although, of course, it’s always for myself!)

A Cow of One’s Own

So now, here is one of my goals that I have achieved. I offer it as much for my entertainment as for yours, and with the encouragement of my classmates:

When I was a young woman, I wanted very much to have a Jersey cow, to be close to her and to take care of her.

How I did it:  I kept the goal in front of me, particularly in images such as repeating images of a Brahman cow (which I believe, while still around, are thought to be ancestors of the Jersey) on a bedspread on our bed, for several years. When it was time (for our family) to move on in our life, one of two major requirements in deciding where to move to was to have a small farm so we could have at least one Jersey cow. The other major requirement was being near the sea. I reviewed with one of my farmer cousins the needs and requirements of a milk cow, and eventually we settled in to our small farm by the sea. And when we were ready, the cow appeared.

I haven’t thought, yet, about what Big-Picture Want the cow had to do with, but I assure you there is one!  And, by the way, she really was a teacher.

Filed Under: Creating, Finding What You Want, Living, Meaning Tagged With: Big-Picture Wants, Cows, Goals, Living, Meaning, Purpose

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