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What’s Wrong with Precommitment Devices?

August 10, 2014 by Joycelyn Campbell 3 Comments

Odysseus tied on the mast. Icon for the Greek ...

A precommitment device is a strategy for forcing yourself to do something you think you should do but you don’t actually want to do. You might resort to a precommitment device if your will power and self-control have failed to do the trick. The most famous example of someone using a precommitment device is Odysseus having himself tied to the mast of his ship to avoid the temptation of the sirens.

The most common precommitment devices involve agreeing to forfeit a certain sum of money if you fail to achieve a goal or accomplish a particular task. You could make an agreement with yourself to donate money to a charity if you fail to attend the gym three times a week, lose a specific amount of weight, or complete the next chapter of your book. Of course, if you’re the only one who knows about this agreement, you can easily waffle and wiggle your way out of it.

A more binding agreement would be to agree to pay a friend that same amount of money if you fail to meet your goal. Not only would you lose money, you would also experience some degree of shame. That’s the premise behind precommitment devices: we will do what’s good for us in order to avoid the threat of negative consequences. That’s also what makes them problematic.

Underlying the popularity of precommitment devices is the assumption that we are, in general, rational beings who want to avoid negative consequences. But there’s not a lot of evidence support that idea, and if it were true, we wouldn’t need precommitment devices to begin with. Rational beings who were aware of potential negative consequences would all be healthy, law-abiding, diligent, honest, tidy, sober, rule-following good citizens. Obviously, we are not all that. Precommitment devices have something in common with affirmations, which is that the people they work for probably need them the least.

Loss aversion is one rationale offered for using precommitment devices. It’s true we are programmed to avoid losses, but a loss of enjoyment can be experienced as a loss, too. In some cases a more significant loss than the loss of a few bucks.

Another problem with precommitment devices is that they are black and white. Either you do it or you don’t. You win or you lose. You avoid temptation or you give in to it. This isn’t a scenario that allows for being present, noticing what’s actually happening, learning something about yourself or what you’re attempting to do, or adjusting your course. This is more about getting the upper hand over your recalcitrant, weak-willed self. And when the next such situation arises, you will have to do battle with that bad boy self all over again.

There’s Another Way to Make a Precommitment

Creating an intention is a form of precommitment, too, but one without the threat of negative consequences. Creating an intention also takes into consideration the fact that what you’re attempting is not easy, but without judging your supposed lack of self-control. Changing any behavior is difficult simply because we’re wired to keep doing whatever we have been doing. Creating an intention—as part of the I.A.P. process—allows you to focus on something you want to do or be as opposed to something you don’t want to do or be. It helps you keep your attention on your desired outcome and motivates you to keep going, one step at a time, even when the going is difficult. Instead of having to be good or pay the price for being bad, you aim to keep getting better. You don’t have to initiate or engage in an inner struggle with yourself. And instead of forking over cash when you fail, you get to reward yourself when you succeed.

Have you ever used a precommitment device? If so, how did it work for you?

Filed Under: Beliefs, Choice, Happiness, Learning, Living, Mind Tagged With: Commitment, Intention, Odysseus, Precommitment Device, Self-Control, Will Power

You and Your Stuff

August 3, 2014 by Joycelyn Campbell 2 Comments

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Do you have too much stuff? Most of us would probably answer in the affirmative. I’ve lightened my material load considerably, but I still have too much stuff, too. Our relationship with our stuff can be complicated, thought. And it’s partly due to those complications that, instead of getting rid of some of it, we continue to accumulate more and more. Holding on to things becomes a habit.

My deep and now-abiding interest in clutter and having too much stuff (the two often go together) is related to the effect it has on the brain. Clutter tends to snag your attention on a regular basis and in dozens of different ways. It takes up space in your head that could be better occupied by something more productive or even just more interesting. You don’t have an unlimited amount of System 2 (conscious) attention. How much of it are you letting your stuff siphon off?

Not sure? Here are a baker’s dozen questions to ask yourself.

  1. How much stuff are you holding onto because you might need it someday?
  2. How much stuff are you holding onto because it has financial value or “might be” valuable?
  3. How much stuff are you holding onto because it has sentimental value?
  4. How much stuff are you holding onto simply because it’s already there?
  5. How much stuff do you think you’re holding onto that you probably don’t even know you have?
  6. How many clothes or shoes do you have that you no longer wear—or that don’t even belong to you?
  7. How many drawers, cabinets, closets, countertops, and shelves are so full you can’t fit anything else in or on them?
  8. How much work do you have to do before you can clean your living or work space?
  9. How much time do you spend looking for things? Have you ever failed to respond to something because you lost track of the paperwork?
  10. How much of your stuff needs to be repaired, refinished, repurposed, or recycled?
  11. How often do you notice something in your living or work space and think “I really need to do something about that”?
  12. Have you ever panicked at the thought of someone coming into your home and seeing the mess? Conversely, have you ever said, “You think your place is bad, you should see mine”?
  13. How many times have you gotten everything in one area completely tidy and organized only to find the clutter slowly creeping back months, weeks, or even days later?

Maybe it’s time for you to take the plunge and clear some space. Clearing space isn’t the same as getting organized. (In fact, it’s possible to be an extremely well-organized hoarder.) Clearing space means getting rid of things you no longer use or need. After you’ve done that, you’ll probably find it much easier to organize what remains.

Clearing your physical space can have a profound effect on your well-being in many different ways. It can give you clarity. It can ease your mind. It can relieve you of at least some of the guilt, anxiety, or depression that often accompanies being weighed down by too much stuff. It can create space for something new.

Clearing space can change your life! It changed mine.

Filed Under: Brain, Happiness, Living Tagged With: Brain, Clarity, Clearing Space, Clutter, Mind, Stuff

U Is for Unconscious

July 31, 2014 by Joycelyn Campbell 3 Comments

Waiting

Three things we don’t like, all beginning with u: uncertainty, unsolved problems, and urgency. Combine the three and we’re likely to encounter another u word: uncomfortable. Actually, uncomfortable is putting it mildly. Our discomfort with the triumvirate of uncertainty, unsolved problems, and urgency is so strong we will go to great, sometimes absurd, lengths to avoid experiencing or even acknowledging it.

That’s…unfortunate. For at least two reasons.

First, in our haste to return to the illusory state of certainty, we tend to do things like jump to conclusions, accept the first answer or explanation that comes to mind (consistent with our preexisting beliefs), make a mess by acting prematurely, or immobilize ourselves in endless rounds of rumination. Rumination feels like problem-solving but it’s the opposite.

Second, by refusing to let ourselves experience—and appreciate—the discomfort that accompanies uncertainty, unsolved problems, and urgency, we deny ourselves another experience: the pure joy of the aha! moment when a solution presents itself. It may take a while, but suddenly what was murky and inchoate becomes bright and clear. The path ahead becomes obvious. I say the solution “presents itself” because although we tend to take credit for coming up with the brilliant idea or flash of insight, the part of our brain we identify with had little to do with it. It’s the unconscious that figured it out and then clued us in.

One of the reasons waiting it out while the unconscious does its thing makes us squirm is that we have no control over the process. It isn’t going to occur by the force of our will or on our timetable. When we try to make it happen we usually just end up getting in our own way and muddling the process.

Something that’s helped me develop an appreciation for—if not a wholehearted embrace of—uncertainty and the other u states is recognizing the times when I’m unclear or don’t have enough information. No matter how desperately I might want to act, if I’m not sure which action to take, I wait until the next thing to do becomes apparent.

That still makes me uncomfortable, and certainly no one would describe me as a patient person. But I’ve had enough of these experiences that I’ve come to expect an answer or a solution to show up. A pattern will be seen. Dots will be connected. I’ve learned to trust the unconscious part of my brain in these situations even though I can’t observe what it’s doing.

I’m learning to give credit where credit is due. After all, the hamster with the rudder (the conscious part of my brain) would go nowhere at all without the hamster on the wheel (the unconscious part of my brain).

It isn’t easy, but rather than trying to get back to comfortable and certain as quickly as possible, we can develop a tolerance for the discomfort. We can even learn to appreciate the uncertainty, the knottiness of an unsolved problem, and the urgency of the situation. Whatever is on the other side of our current distress is unimaginable to us now, but it could be amazing—even awesome. Why take the chance of missing out on something awesome just to avoid feeling a little uncomfortable?

Filed Under: Brain, Consciousness, Creating, Living, Mind, Uncertainty, Unconscious Tagged With: Brain, Consciousness, Creativity, Mind, Problem solving, Uncertainty, Unconscious

Self-Talk Radio Is Always on the Air

July 27, 2014 by Joycelyn Campbell Leave a Comment

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Our monkey minds are constantly chattering away, leaping from one thought to another, unchecked and unguided. We have many conflicting wants, needs, and goals but little available headspace in which to sort them out. Most of our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are not even consciously generated. They’re the result of what neuroscientist David Eagleman calls zombie subroutines.

In addition, we’re unaware of how vulnerable we are to influence from the environment. We are reportedly mentally AWOL at least 50% of the time. If you don’t believe that, just try tuning in to your own self talk. But be prepared to be appalled.

You’re engaging in some variation of self-talk whenever you:

  • Explain yourself to yourself
  • Explain external events and other people to yourself
  • Assign blame
  • Rationalize
  • Justify
  • Judge
  • React to events and other people
  • Rehash events
  • Mentally argue with yourself or others
  • Come to conclusions
  • Recall past events
  • Berate yourself
  • Make comparisons
  • Make predictions about the future
  • Encourage yourself
  • Give yourself directions
  • Remind yourself or keep a mental to-do list
  • Rehearse for the future

Most of these categories of self-talk are not very productive or what anyone would call positive. It’s part of the human condition. But self-talk can have a very powerful effect on us—especially when we’re tuned in to it unconsciously rather than consciously. On the other hand, tuning in to your self-talk is a great way to find out what’s going on in your unconscious.

  • Notice the ongoing stream of self-talk. Some of it is productive, some of it is neutral, and a lot of it is counterproductive.
  • Notice your inclination to label, judge, or try to change it—which creates additional self-talk.
  • Notice what kinds of themes your self-talk has. Does it bolster a particular mental, emotional, or physical state? Do particular events or situations hook you more often than others? Do you find yourself rerunning mental tapes?
  • Notice your emotions. What’s the relationship between your self-talk and the way you feel?
  • Notice your physical sensations. What’s the relationship between your self-talk and your physical state?

Instead of judging or trying to change your self-talk, try these gentle tools.

  • Ask questions. (Is that true? What do I want? What actually happened? etc.)
  • Empty the trash. If a particular situation or issue has hooked you and you want to get it out of your head, set a timer for 10 minutes and flow-write (keep writing without lifting your pen from the paper and without reflecting) about it. When you’re finished, do not reread what you wrote. Just toss it.
  • Focus your attention. Choose a word or phrase to focus your attention in the moment so you can redirect your thoughts.

A great way to pay attention to your self-talk is to get a pocket-sized notebook to carry with you. Each time you become aware of your self-talk, jot down the date, time, and a brief summary of your self-talk. The notebook is a cue for you to pay attention, and the more often you write in it, the more aware you will become of how you talk to yourself, what you talk to yourself about, and what effect it has on you.

Remember that Self-Talk Radio is always on the air—so you can tune in any time.

NOTE: This post was originally published exactly one year ago today and its subject is timely as ever. Paying attention to self-talk can really help us lessen our attachment to a situation, emotion, or even another person. Observing our self-talk can clue us in to beliefs, attitudes, and biases we may not even be aware we have. We can also watch our brain as it spins a convincing narrative out of what we do, think, and feel and what happens to us. If we’re able to observe the spinning process, we can exercise at least a little control over it. We don’t have to fully buy in to it. We might be able to laugh at ourselves or at least take ourselves less seriously.

Filed Under: Attention, Brain, Habit, Living, Mind, Mindfulness Tagged With: Attention, Brain, David Eagleman, Habit, Mind, Self-Talk

Brain & Mind Roundup #4

July 20, 2014 by Joycelyn Campbell Leave a Comment

Day 283 / 365 - Skills

Links to current stories related to the brain and the mind. Click on the titles to read the full stories.

Talent vs. Practice: Why Are We Still Debating This?

Scott Barry Kaufman (SciAm)

Practice does not make perfect. The now-famous 10,000-hour rule was popularized by Malcolm Gladwell in his book Outliers. But subsequent studies have debunked the idea that the number of hours you put into practicing a skill is a better predictor of your eventual success than the amount of talent you start out with. But it isn’t an either/or situation, either.

Kaufman says:

All traits, including the ability to deliberately practice, involve a mix of nature and nurture. In fact, there is no such thing as innate talent. That’s a myth that is constantly perpetuated, despite the fact that most psychologists recognize that all skills require practice and support for their development– even though there are certainly genetic influences (which influence our attention and even our passions).

Like All Animals, We Need Stress. Just Not Too Much

Richard Harris (WLRN Miami FL)

Stress can lead you to an early grave, but stress can also save your life. In fact, we can’t live without it. Stress also helps us pay attention and remember things. And a life without any kind of stress would actually be boring.

We tend to assume that modern life provides us with more stress than our ancestors had to deal with, but that’s just another assumption (like the idea that all stress is bad for us).

It’s not like stress is mounting up in our modern age—it’s just [that] the flavor of it is changing. –David Linden, professor of neuroscience at Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine and author of  The Compass of Pleasure.

And that flavor isn’t changing as much as you might think [Harris says]. Our poll finds that over the past year, the major causes of stress in Americans are still those age-old troubles: illness, disease and the death of a loved one.

Study Cracks How Brain Processes Emotion

(Science Daily)

A Columbia University study conducted by Junichi Chikazoe, Daniel H. Lee, Nikolaus Kriegeskorte, and Adam K. Anderson concludes:

Although feelings are personal and subjective, the human brain turns them into a standard code that objectively represents emotions across different senses, situations and even people.

Despite how personal our feelings feel, the evidence suggests our brains use a standard code to speak the same emotional language.

If you and I derive similar pleasure from sipping a fine wine or watching the sun set, our results suggest it is because we share similar fine-grained patterns of activity in the orbitofrontal cortex.

Well, maybe someone will come up with a dating service that includes neurological testing to determine whether both prospective partners demonstrate “similar fine-grained patterns of activity in the orbitofrontal cortex” when enjoying the same activities or eating the same kind of food.

Filed Under: Brain, Brain & Mind Roundup, Living, Mind Tagged With: Brain, Emotion, Mind, Practice, Stress, Talent, Ten-Thousand-Hour Rule

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